1. Sex is good. This includes physical pleasure and considers sex as a moral force. Sex is good because it is what people who love each other naturally do. It is normal and healthy human behavior. Consensual sex between adults is a primary expression of love. Among our most basic biological needs, sex is essential for reproduction and the survival of the race. Beyond this, it is also a primary way to fulfill healthy human desires for physical touching, deep pleasure, and emotional intimacy.
2. Sexual energy and spiritual energy are the same energy. Both energies are examples of "life-force energy." There are no words for this "energy" in the English language, but in East Indian culture, its equivalent is "prana;" in Chinese culture "chi." As the sexual energy charge builds during lovemaking, we increase our access to this basic life force. Sex offers a way to cultivate and use life-force energy for other purposes: giving and receiving pleasure, physical and emotional healing, creating love, and excelling in other areas of human endeavor such as science, business, the arts, and sports.
3. Sexuality is a legitimate spiritual path. Tantra is a form of yoga. Yoga means union. Tantric yoga includes the union of sexuality and spirituality. Sex and spirit are not two separate aspects of our selves. On the contrary, spiritual lovemaking is one of the simplest ways for ordinary people to experience mystical connection-union with themselves, their partners, and the Divine. The arbitrary separation of body, mind, and spirit in most cultures is an intellectual, psychological, and emotional tragedy of incalculable proportions. This error of judgment has been the cause of great suffering for countless generations of people. It is now time for sexual healing that can only be possible by reuniting sexuality and spirituality.
4. We are each responsible for our own sexual fulfillment as well as our own personal and spiritual growth. Despite popular belief, it is not your lover's job to bring you to sexual ecstasy. No matter how attentive or skillful your lover may be, unless you allow yourself to open fully to sexual pleasure, you will not reach the heights of orgasmic bliss. Performance anxiety is one of the killers of passionate sexual intimacy. When we each take responsibility for our own sexual pleasure and our own spiritual awakening, the pressure to perform is eliminated.
