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Hello again
well just to let you know a little about me im 17years old and live in iowa. i guess theres not just one things but when thinking about why i want this the two most impoerant things are 1) im am slightly over weight and can never motivate myself to excercise enough to be at my desired weight and excercise level and 2) after hearing your definition of medetation i want that "peace" really badly. i think with the medetation on a regular basis ill learn more about me and feel moe relaxed. i want to wake up in the mornning and instead on feeling tired depressed and worried about school i want to be able to walk outside and take a deep breath and feel good and i dont know if im on the right track but i think meditation might do this? with these as my main motavation do you see meditation right for me?
Thanks
hope to hear from you
Jon
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It was a little confusing but for the most part i think i understand what ir is now? One question i have now is, Is it a wrong interprttation that some people have when they describe medetation as sitting with your legs corssed and arms extended adn entering a place in the mind where you can not be disturbed and even if someone would to come and touch you couldnt feel it( just what i thought it was) also while doing this does there need to be any soothing music or insents of anykind?
Thanks again for the help
Hope to hear from you soon
Jon
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Hello,
i was wondering what meditation is and what are the benifits. also how easy would it be for me (17 years old) to learn?
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Hi, Jon.
The word meditation has been used to refer to many different things. I'll talk about what it means to me in the simplest, most direct form.
Most simply, meditation means starting to notice oneself. By this I mean starting to notice the patterns of thoughts and feelings that arise in me that control how I relate to others, to the natural world and to myself.
It is fairly easy to see that we usually respond to life in habitual, programmed, reactive ways. Some of our programs seem to work ok and some seem to cause a lot of trouble. And sometimes we have fresh, simple moments that are not programs at all. And we begin to wonder if it is possible to live more in simple freshness and less in reactive patterns.
Anyone who has sensed this has probably also found that "trying" to be fresh and spontaneous simply doesn't work. The trying is itself a pattern that the brain tries to impose. Most of how we try to change our lives really comes from programmed responses, learned techniques. And there are forms of meditation that try to do this too, to train the mind and body. But the simple meditation I'm talking about is not programming. It is a instant of meeting the present moment with an interest in discovering the difference between programming and freshness.
We can say there are two aspects to this simple meditative moment (maybe we can call it a meditative inquiry or presence.) One aspect is to notice reactions and patterns, to become more sensitive to them in our selves, in a very honest and vulnerable way. There can be a great resistance in the nervous system to the habitual patterns of thinking and feeling coming into the light. Something in us wants to keep them hidden. We don't want to really realize and feel that we are greedy, or scared or feel better than someone else. So by honest I mean not needing to defend any image of myself but rather being willing and interested to see what is actually going on.
The second aspect of meditative inquiry or presence is to notice that, even though there may be a lot of internal noise and conflict, reactions happening, etc., it is not all that is going on. There is the sound right now of the fan, the warmth of the air on the skin, the simple sensations in the body, breath moving, heaviness in the bottom. There is a wide world of simple sensation, movements, life, sound - all one living presence that is based in a deep stillness. We don't usually even experience this world. Perhaps the habitual brain doesn't pay attention to it because it can't be wired into the brain's neurological patterns.
So we are talking about a sensitivity to and vulnerable awareness of the habitual, reactive patterns of the brain and body and at the very same time an increasing sensitivity to and interest in the simple presence that is all around and through us.
The easiest way to start entering into this meditative presence is to sit quietly some place in a comfortable way but not so relaxed that you just fall asleep. You may fall asleep anyway at first but then you'll wake up again. Just sitting still, not trying to change what comes up but just noticing, becoming sensitive. Often the mind will be lost in daydreaming or fantasizing. But if you watch carefully you will notice that there is also a moment of waking up to that, in which you notice instantly that there is now awareness of the body, of the breathing, maybe of the space around you and the sounds, and that during the daydreaming that was all gone.
There is so much for a human being to discover in this open, vulnerable presence and transparency to oneself. In the most wide open moments, which happen on their own once in a while, there is really very little human being there, just the sounds, smells, movements and stillness of life itself. In this there is no young or old, teenage or adult - just undivided life. We have all experienced this at a moment or two in our lives - a dropping away of any feeling of separateness and isolation, a disappearing into life itself.
Meditation is not a progression toward this unseparatedness. It is unseparatedness, moment to moment. Not defending against what is coming up but letting it be seen, heard and felt. It may not feel as grandiose as plunging into a waterfall but it is a critical shift from defensiveness and separation to vulnerability and feeling.
I can tell you that something happens over the years of doing this that makes it easier and easier to live for moments in the deep, refreshing silence of simple, undivided presence.
It can be helpful to be able to talk with other people who are experienced with this. It can also be helpful to get away to a retreat sometimes, in which the ordinary activities of life can be put aside and one can enter more deeply into silent presence. As I mentioned, there are many places that practice meditations that get lost in trying to create new patterns instead of seeing pattern for what it is. One place that I can recommend where the focus is on simple presence is the Springwater Center for Meditative Inquiry and Retreat in upstate NY. You can find them on the web. You are also welcome to keep in touch with me.
I don't know if I've addressed your concern. It's possible that I've been a little confusing. Please let me know if you'd like me to clarify something or if you have some additional questions.
Best,
Jay Cutts
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Hi, Jon.
First, sitting with your legs crossed is not necessary. If it is comfortable for you and doesn't cause strain, then it is fine. The important thing is to find a position that you can maintain for a while without having to move around and yet can stay awake.
As for entering any place in the mind, see if you can find a space in which you can be aware of what is happening in the mind, along with being aware of what is actually happening around you, including the breath, the sounds around you, the feel of the air. You are not trying to anesthetize the mind nor to defend the mind but rather to let the mind be seen. To understand yourself it is most helpful to let go of defending oneself, of trying to become something.
Maybe you can tell me a little more about your motivation for wanting to do meditation. I think that would be very helpful for me to understand a little more of where you are coming from. I hope you will write back and say something about that. What experiences have you had that make you want to meditate? Do you have a goal that you would like to accomplish with meditation?
Best,
Jay Cutts
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Hi, Jon.
Thanks for your clarification. I understand what you are saying and how you feel.
I would encourage you to try to take time to sit quietly when you can, as I described before. I think you will discover that taking quiet time by yourself has many benefits. First, it gives the events of the day time to sort of digest as they run through the mind. Secondly, when things happen during the day that may be disturbing, for example, maybe somebody gets mad at you or makes fun of you or a group of people ignore you, it gives you a chance to see your own reactions to these things deeply and to wonder if you are seeing the whole picture. Finally, you may find yourself feeling a bit refreshed after sitting quietly and it may be a little easier just to enjoy the night air or to feel at ease with yourself and the people around you.
Little by little you will find the quiet energy of just being present. It is a lifetime's work to see the many ways that we try to close ourselves off in fear. With this work comes a growing ability to live freely. Be patient with yourself and be as honest with yourself as you can be. The important thing is the possibility of seeing simply, without judging or reacting. It doesn't matter what is seen - a beautiful sunset, a small animal or the rising up of fear, anger or jealousy. The important thing is the seeing itself.
Well, I hope we will keep in touch as you go about this. It is always nice to have others to talk with about this simple work. You might check out the Springwater Center web site and you are welcome to write back to me here.
Take care,
Jay Cutts
